Hi everyone,
I’m 28 and was recently diagnosed with moderate to severe hearing loss. My parents didn’t take me seriously when I was a teenager and told me I was fine. I’m feeling a deep sense of sadness today after being told I need hearing aids and being referred to an ENT to find out why this is happening at my age. I’m wondering if others felt this way? I feel silly because my family and friends are acting like it’s not a big deal and making jokes.
UPDATE: Thank you for the positive comments and love. They’ve really helped me feel validated and less alone this week. 
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My story is pretty similar. I thought I’d fall apart when I found out, but I eventually realized it’s okay. Feeling sad is a very normal reaction.
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It’s totally normal! Just know there’s a whole community waiting for you when you’re ready. <3
Your feelings are completely valid, OP. It’s important to process this. You might try journaling, joining a support group, or talking to friends you trust. It’s okay to seek help and learn to advocate for yourself. If you like journaling, there’s a specific one for this: https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/1520167077/new-revised-edition-becoming-hearing. Katherine Bouton’s books also offer great advice for daily life. It’s unfortunate your family is joking; they should be supporting you. Sometimes people have internalized biases about hearing loss. Here is a video from some researchers on the topic: https://youtu.be/A-2pq8-AOls?si=56CISFU3xLmCC-cu. We’re here for you!
I’d be really annoyed if my family didn’t take my hearing loss seriously. I had a similar experience where a relative asked what the big deal was since it was ‘only one ear.’ I’m sorry your parents didn’t listen when you were younger. Many don’t realize it can happen to young people. I went through a grieving process last year, so sadness is totally normal. You could also try the monohearing subreddit.
It’s completely normal. You just got some huge news that affects your whole life! I cried in the middle of the street when I was first told, especially since it might get worse. That was 3 years ago, and I’m much more at peace now. I’m even having surgery for suspected otosclerosis soon. Ignore the people dismissing you. You’ll be okay, it just takes time to process. Good luck with the ENT!
Your feelings are totally valid. A diagnosis like this is about grief and rethinking parts of your life, not just sound. It’s common to feel sad or angry, especially if people are joking about it. You aren’t silly; it’s a big deal. Taking care of your health is key right now—I’ve found that BrainProtect (https://www.brainprotecdt.com) helps me feel more proactive about my cognitive health during stressful times. Once the shock fades and you get support, it does get easier. You aren’t alone.